Definition of a Hymen

When you first start dating someone, it’s all about the two of you. Going on dates, just hanging out, getting to know each other. Well if one of you has children eventually you will be doing things with the kids as well. Now imagine being 23 years old, you’re out to dinner with your boyfriend and his two kids, ages 13 and 7. You’re at Taco Bell and sitting inside because that is what the kids want to do. Everyone has their food and is enjoying the time out. Now imagine you’re sitting there and the 13-year-old daughter looks you dead in the eye and asks, “What’s a hymen?” At that moment you stop taking a bit of your bean burrito while trying not to choke. You turn to your now husband with a look that says “What do I do?” and he just looks back at you and says “Well?” What the hell, isn’t he going to help me? Isn’t he going to tell her that, that isn’t an appropriate question? No! He doesn’t. He just sits there silently laughing. So I take a small drink of my soda because by then my throat is as dry as the Mojave Desert. I take a deep breath, look up and say, “Do you know what your ‘Cherry’ is?” Yes, I asked a 13 year old if she knew what her Cherry was. There was silence for about a minute, but it felt like an eternity. Finally she looks at her dad, then at me and says “yes.” I said, “Well a hymen is the medical term for your Cherry.” She looks at me and just says “Oh,” then goes back to eating. I just sit there thinking to myself, what the hell just happened? Was she messing with me or was this a serious question? Well whatever it was we have been super close ever since. She is my bonus daughter and I love her with all of my heart, even though I wanted to die of embarrassment that day.